Last week I heard someone say that looking for a partner is pretty much like recruiting an applicant for work. You look at their credentials and if they meet your requirements then you consider them. If not, then despite how attractive they are, you move on.
I have to say this is mature love. It goes beyond the kilig feeling and sees deep into the future of what could be. It’s also a love that asks not what the person can do for you but also what you can offer the other person in return.
Hearing the person speak and share his thoughts made me see him in a whole new light. Someone I’ve known for close to a year but never really gave much thought has suddenly entered my radar full blown. I am curious about him. I want to know him better. Be his friend. See if he fits the bill.
I think nothing’s wrong finding out about him. There are several things left wanting and which I’m still praying for wisdom how to approach but making him as a friend – I see no harm in that.
And so, over the weekend I asked God that if it was really in His will that I should develop a friendship with this person that He be the one to create a way for us to have a conversation. As extrovert as I am, I don’t fancy myself approaching him out of the blue and talking to him about his interests or what not.
And so it happened. As innocently as the sun rising in the east, I found myself sharing a light moment with him and a group of other senior leaders in the company. We laughed at jokes – not the crude and immature ones – but those rooted in serious matters like business, client relations and future goals. And they were not negative jokes rooted in work discontent. They were honest jokes rooted in future positive goals and opportunities.
It was a group effort but one that gave me a deeper glimpse into who he is.
But that was a group conversation. Dare I say that we also had a personal conversation? This time it was he who initiated it. Again, not me. Just a simple note to tell me to get the coffee and sugar he brought for me. Of which I actually forgot but was touched to know that he remembered.
And from there a conversation on agriculture and farming naturally flowed. So yeah. He knows about agriculture. He is business-minded. He is responsible. And so far, he knows his stuff. He also has a vision.
Of course there’s a lot more to be known about this person but will I pursue the friendship – why not?
I will trust the Lord to unveil it as each day pass.