Intelligence is Sexy

Saying that intelligent woman cannot find a suitable mate and have higher chances of remaining single is like dooming the entire human population to a generation of dimwits. In fact, any man should be grateful to find an intelligent woman for it will assure him that his lineage will have an intelligent gene pool. It is not the girl’s fault to be intelligent. It is the guy’s fault to be cowardly.

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Intelligent women are more likely to be single.

I’ve encountered this statement twice and consistently, my ears flared out. Being an intelligent woman, I totally beg to disagree from this statement which was expounded in detail in this article. The article claimed that:

Ignorant women get the man and intelligent women never feel bliss.

It goes on to further state that:

They (men) want a woman who is dumb enough to make them a priority and, unfortunately, for all those sane, rational and intelligent women out there, there’s a hefty number of these women out there.

There are plenty of women who will give up their lives for men, who will refuse to challenge them, fight them and refuse to see them as their equals, but their saviors.

Females with high intelligence in male/female relationships were seen as problematic.

…. Whereas, high intelligence in the male partner was not seen as problematic, but desirable.

The article is sickening to read. It goes on to detail that men often feel insecure with intelligent women and would rather look for dumb ones who will make the men – and the kids afterwards – the priority. It goes to state that intelligent women often go after good degrees and good careers to the neglect of a successful relationship.

Intelligence breeds ambition, which breeds neglect.

Because of these, intelligent women are prone to dip below their standards in the hope of attracting a suitable man. While those who fail to do so cling desperately to their careers or degrees and use it to fill the void left by the lack of a relationship.

Intelligent women are often perceived as threats to the male ego and thus are best left avoided or worst – best considered only as a suitable mind companion, not a suitable wife or partner.

You (women) may not have muscles and a big d*ck, but men will look at you as competition.

They (men) assume the woman is going to correct them, upstage them or, God-forbid, make them feel worthless.

I thought that by the end of the article, there would be some redeeming statements on intelligent women but sadly it ended with this conclusion:

If a woman seems too smart or accomplished, she’s typecast as “non-dating material.” If she’s witty and competitive, she’s viewed as challenging and overbearing. Society has come to teach women that being funny and smart won’t get you dates, but empty heads and shallow hearts.

There is nothing wrong if a member of the female species is intelligent. It is only the pressures of culture and society that dictates that there is supposed to be a stronger sex and a weaker sex and that said stronger sex are males and the weaker sex are females. Intelligence – a generally strong trait – is then perceived to be greater in the stronger sex.

Nature’s Ugly  Beautiful Truth

In nature, it is often the female species who is the strongest. Looking around at examples in the Animal Kingdom, the female is considered the lead and the strongest because they have the capacity for reproduction and hence the survival of the species. In nature, this is the strongest trait ever.

In the human species, man and woman, because of their highly evolved brain functions, are essentially co-equals. There is no weaker sex. There are differences but each difference is not meant to determine who is stronger or weaker but is meant to be a compliment to each other.

Hence, categorically saying that intelligent woman cannot find a suitable mate and have higher chances of remaining single is like dooming the entire human population to a generation of dimwits.

There are men out there who will best benefit being with an intelligent woman. In fact, any man should be grateful to find an intelligent woman for it will assure him that his lineage will have an intelligent gene pool.

So why then do men not do the intelligent thing and marry intelligent women?

Society’s Problem

The problem is that society has created stereotypes of gender roles. It has deceived us into thinking that women who pursue degrees and careers cannot be good domestic house makers. It has deceived us into thinking that men cannot take part in household duties because it is emasculating.

But an advanced society should be able to see past these lies. There is nothing wrong with a woman pursuing a career if that is where she would be best useful. There is nothing wrong with a man helping a woman clean after the house or look after the baby especially if both are working hard to provide for the family.

We have long outgrown the industrial age – let us not stick to industrial age beliefs. Living in the information age should open our minds that there is gender equality and men should not be afraid of intelligent women.

It is not the girl’s fault to be intelligent. It is the guy’s fault to be cowardly.

Men were created to pursue women. Women were created to be pursued. This is something already ingrained in the pits of our hearts. But because men were led to believe that intelligence in a woman is intimidating and scary, society has created men who are afraid to aim for the prime apple in a tree – choosing instead to settle for the rotten ones that fall on the ground.

Women, on the other hand, have been faced with a dilemma – remain to be the prime apple at the top of the tree waiting for the brave man to climb and claim her or stoop down and fall to the ground – a rotten apple lowering her standards just so men would find her desirable.

It’s a sad and sorry state wherein both sexes lose. Men don’t get to realize the prime women they could have had if they have been brave enough to climb the tree and women are left scarred and disillusioned that they had to give up a big chunk of themselves just to find a mate.

This leads to a lot of disillusioned relationships with both parties ending up hating each other for many false and unfulfilled dreams and expectations. The end result are dysfunctional families which leads to a dysfunctional society.

The Humane Solution

Instead of telling guys that smart women are intimidating and threatening why not tell them that smart women will actually spice up a relationship and spare them a long life of boredom once the passion fizzles out. Relationships are, after all, not just about the passion but also the friendship which can only happen if two parties have more than sex appeal consuming them.

If only society would choose to correct itself and empower people instead of disempowering them; If only, instead of telling women that being intelligent will probably lead to a life of miserable singlehood, society told women that being intelligent will allow them to discern the best guys from the rotten ones –  then ours would be a better world.

There is nothing wrong with being a single and intelligent woman in this day and age. I am proud to be one and confident that I will, one day, meet my perfect match.

 

The Ugly Truth. A 2009 movie about what men and women expect from relationships.
The Ugly Truth. A 2009 movie about what men and women expect from relationships.

Author: elleica

Jesus Lover. Writer. Blogger. Biologist turned marketer. Child of Learning. Thrill Seeker. I long for my next adventure.

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